Editorial: Remaining in touch with friends

May. 26, 2014 @ 10:48 PM

Figuring out the best way to handle grief and move forward can be simpler than we might think during times of loss.

For our community, we believe it is right and a good thing that we should embrace the spirit and determination of Dr. Bev Tucker. He died Friday at age 73.

Tucker will remain an inspiration to countless people for years to come. Gentlemen don’t come any finer, supporters of a community can’t demonstrate greater loyalty and his work as a physician was a model of excellence.

His example and the standard he set are admirable. He was respected and beloved, two characteristics when placed together yield tremendous gains for those whose lives he touched.

Because of his many involvements, it’s safe to say he touched far more than even he might have imagined.

But what happens when we lose our friends? And what happens to our community when it loses one its best friends?

We believe it is at that very time, and beyond, we should make sure all they did mattered. We need to understand why our friends, the people we looked up to and admired, did what they did. We should understand, if we can, how they did it.

We don’t have to lose touch with anyone who leaves us. And that is true not only for those who die but also those still living who simply exit our lives, perhaps moving away or retiring.

We can stay in touch with anyone, and we can still feel close to anyone, through what we do. We can stay in touch because of why and how we do it.

That’s one of the reasons so many are remembered through memorials, scholarships and other means of honor. But there can be more.

We can take actions that are inspired through causes of those we admire. And we can do so boldly with intentional purpose, not lightly, reluctantly or even begrudgingly.

Our community’s loss of a man is great. But his spirit and his desires for each of us remain. And it is our actions in support of him that will forever keep us in touch.