Don’t disturb the chrysalis before it opens
“There is a way that seems right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” — Proverbs 14:12
I heard a story some years ago that will forever resonate in my spirit because it teaches such a powerful lesson in transforming our children.
During the spring we see a lot of caterpillars in trees. If you watch closely they turn into a sack that resembles a cocoon; called a pupa. One spring there were several pupae in a tree. The pupa is a protective cover that provides everything in which the butterfly needs to grow properly. During the springtime, they begin the metamorphosis process of turning into beautiful butterflies.
A young boy observing the transformation thought that it was a beautiful sight. He looked at the remaining cocoons and decided to open one in order to help the butterfly come out sooner.
When the baby butterfly came forth, he remained at the bottom of the box that the boy had placed him. It remained longer than the three to four hours that it would normally take for it to fly. After several days, the butterfly died.
The boy was unhappy because he had hatched the butterfly himself. He ran to his father and asked why the butterfly had died.
The father told the boy that during the squirming and struggling inside to cocoon the butterfly’s wings became strong enough to open. Also, the same movement that it took to open the cocoon helped to strengthen the butterfly’s wings so that it could fly when it was born.
Because the boy had opened the cocoon, the butterfly did not get the needed experience to be independent enough to fly on its own, thus leading to its death.
When I thought of all the violence and upheaval in the world I asked myself the question, “Are we raising our children the way God commanded? Or are we forcing them to grow up much too soon?”
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when is old, he will not depart from it.” — Proverbs 22:6
The Word of God has made it plain that we, as parents are to teach children the right way. The Elders had a saying, “Bend the tree while it is young and it will grow straight or in the direction you want.”
When children are young they are the right age to direct their paths. The lessons that they learn carry them throughout life.
I was at the doctor’s recently when I saw a male child under the age two, slacking (with a Pamper showing) and an earring in his ear. The little fellow couldn’t talk, he could barely walk and yet he was already being groomed as an adult.
Are we as parents doing as the young man in the above story did? Are we pulling our children out of the realm of God’s Word into the clutches of Hell?
The success of our children is contingent upon us bringing them up in the fear of God. Are we helping them to become productive citizens, or grooming them to become destructive?